Voice vs. Tone – What’s the Difference (and Why It Matters for Writers)

Years ago, when I was pitching my first two books, one publisher responded with interest. Through the give and take of our correspondence, they asked about my writing voice. I paused, staring at the page. I’d heard the phrase before, but I wasn’t entirely sure what they meant. Voice? As in style? Tone? Attitude? Was I supposed to sound like someone specific?

So, I did what most writers do when faced with ambiguity: I researched.

I learned I wasn’t alone. Voice and tone are often mixed up, even by seasoned writers. They’re closely related but not the same thing, and grasping the difference can transform your writing as well as how readers connect with your work.

In this post, I’ll break down the main differences and provide tangible examples to help you sharpen your voice and tone, and thus generate writing that resonates.

What Is Voice in Writing?

First, let me say what your voice is not. It’s not trying to compare yourself to some other author’s writing style. Your writing voice is like your fingerprint: distinctive, personal, and uniquely yours. It’s a blend of style, rhythm, perspective, and personality that comes through in everything you write. It shows up in sentence structure, word choice, pacing, and even the worldview behind your writing. Your voice makes it unmistakably you.

A Few Examples of Writing Voice:

  • Anne McCaffrey: emotionally rich and accessible, blending clear, direct prose with imaginative worldbuilding and a deep empathy for characters navigating personal growth within fantastical settings.
  • Lori Soard: gentle, heartfelt, and intimate, often weaving faith, family, and romance into stories that offer emotional warmth, subtle humor, and a strong sense of home and personal redemption.
  • Lois Lowry: spare, contemplative, and quietly powerful, using simple, precise language to explore complex themes like memory, identity, and morality through the eyes of young protagonists discovering the deeper truths of their world.

With experience, your voice evolves, becoming more recognizable and consistent.

What Is Tone in Writing?

While voice is distinctive, personal, and uniquely yours, tone is the mood or attitude you bring to a specific piece. It reflects how you feel about your subject, your audience, or both. It’s what makes writing sound playful or serious, sarcastic or sincere, hopeful or tense. Unlike voice, which tends to stay consistent, tone is flexible and depends on your topic, purpose, and audience.

A Few Examples of Tone:

Playful: “Let’s be honest, writing a novel is 10% inspiration and 90% caffeine and crying.”

Serious: “Writing a novel requires discipline, structure, and an unwavering commitment to craft.”

Sarcastic: “Sure, every writer’s first draft is flawless. Said no editor ever.”

Sincere: “It takes courage to write your truth, even when it feels vulnerable.”

The same writer, with the same voice, can move between tones depending on context. For example, I might write in a warm, encouraging tone in a blog post, shift to intense and suspenseful in a dramatic chapter of one of my books, or adopt a lighthearted, witty tone on social media. It all depends on the goal.

Why Writrs Need to Master Both

Picture a speaker delivering a speech in monotone: flat, unchanging, and dull. No matter how important the message, it’s hard to stay engaged. That’s the risk writers face if they ignore voice or tone.

·       Your voice makes you recognizable. It’s the consistent personality behind your words; how readers connect with you.

·       Your tone helps readers feel what you want: humor, empathy, suspense, or inspiration. It’s the emotional overlay of your voice, guiding readers’ moods and reactions.

Mastering both means writing is authentic, dynamic, and engaging. When voice and tone work together seamlessly, your work forms stronger connections with readers and becomes memorable.

How to Find Your Voice and Control Your Tone

If you’re wondering how to answer the “What’s your writing voice?” question, these steps will help you:

  • Read your writing aloud. Hearing your words helps you spot your natural rhythm, favorite phrases, and personality shining through.
  • Strip away trends and mimicry. Your voice isn’t about copying what’s popular. It’s your unique way of expressing ideas. Focus on what feels authentic.
  • Write as you speak, then refine. Start conversational, like talking to a friend. Then polish while keeping that natural tone. Your real voice feels like you.
  • Notice how others describe your writing. Feedback from editors, readers, or reviews often reveals your voice better than you realize. Are you “warm,” “direct,” or “thoughtful”? These clues help you understand your style.

Following these steps, I can now say my writing voice is warm, earnest, morally grounded, with clear prose, hopeful themes, and character-driven adventure. Notice I don’t mention genre because voice goes deeper than categories.

Controlling your tone means adjusting the emotional attitude of each piece to fit your purpose and audience, while your voice remains your steady foundation.

Practice these steps, and you’ll be able to confidently describe your voice and use it to connect deeply with readers.

Soft Skills of a Good Writer (Beyond Just Writing Well)

As writers, we know that writing well matters. But as a writer in 2025, it’s no longer enough. Gone are the days when we could sit behind a screen, tap out a few thousand words, and get paid with little need for collaboration or communication. The skills of a good writer cover both hard and soft skills.

Whether you’re freelancing, ghostwriting, publishing novels, or building a personal brand online, the way you work is just as important as what you write. What I’m talking about are soft skills. In the writing world, soft skills refer to personal and interpersonal abilities that complement a writer’s technical or creative writing skills. These skills are about how you work with others, under deadlines, or within a project’s larger context.

Before transitioning into the writing world, I worked as an administrative assistant, a role that taught me firsthand the value of time management, emotional intelligence, and clear communication. Working closely with both teams and the public equipped me with the soft skills I now rely on every day as a writer.

Soft Skills Good Writers Should Actively Cultivate

In short, just as we strive to master the skills of writing well, here are five soft skills every modern writer should actively cultivate, not just to survive, but to thrive.

Communication: Write for Humans, Not Just Algorithms

As writers, we all know the importance of being clear in what we say on the page, but what about off the page? While some clients may be laser-focused on SEO or content metrics, clarity in communication still reigns, both in your writing and in your professional interactions. Whether sending a pitch, asking for feedback, or clarifying a vague brief, effectual communication is necessary.

Effective communication means:

  • Expressing ideas clearly
  • Actively listening
  • Adapting your tone for different audiences

Consider this scenario: A freelance writer receives a client brief that simply says, “Make it fun and punchy.” Okay—but what does that actually mean? The instructions are subjective. A less experienced writer might take a wild guess and deliver something too casual, too edgy, or just off-brand.

A more communicative writer, on the other hand, would ask: “Can you share an example of a tone you like?” or “What does ‘punchy’ mean in your brand’s voice?”

I learned this lesson the hard way when ghostwriting an Amish romance. I was happy with the draft. I spoke with some ex-Amish for research and crafted what I thought was an authentic story. But the entire premise was rejected. According to the client, “the Amish would never do that.” If I’d asked a small clarifying question early on, I could have saved weeks of rewrites and built more trust in the process.

Emotional Intelligence: Navigating Feedback and Self-Doubt

Rejection, revision requests, and low engagement on something you loved writing can bruise your ego. That’s where emotional intelligence (EI) steps in. (And let me encourage you, the longer you write, the better you become at handling this.)

EI helps you process criticism without spiraling. It gives you the space between receiving tough feedback and reacting defensively. It helps you distinguish between a poorly worded review and a helpful insight. Most of all, it keeps you from giving up when self-doubt creeps in.

I’m not immune to the blow negative feedback can deliver, but I’ve learned to set it aside for at least a day before responding. I let the initial emotions settle and remind myself that feedback is often subjective. It can sting, but it’s rarely personal, and if it is a review, I don’t have to respond at all.

When that sting hits, try this:

  • Pause
  • Breathe
  • Ask yourself: Is there one thing I can learn from this?

Often, once the hurt feelings fade, your mindset shifts, and what felt like a bruise to your ego becomes a breakthrough in your craft.

Adaptability: Keeping Up with Tools, Trends, and Expectations

Today’s writing landscape is fluid. What worked two years ago might flop now. Audiences change. SEO algorithms change. Formats change. And yes, AI is changing the game, too.

Writers who dig in their heels with a “this is how I’ve always done it” mindset risk becoming obsolete. But writers who stay curious, open to learning new tools (like AI editing assistants or content planning software), and willing to shift mediums from blogging to newsletters, from long-form to short-form, are the ones who thrive.

This doesn’t mean compromising your creative integrity. It means understanding how to evolve without losing your voice. One writer I know started in blogging, shifted to branded storytelling, and now scripts immersive podcast experiences. Same core voice, new medium. That’s adaptability in action.

Time Management & Self-Motivation: The Invisible Discipline

Being a writer often means being your own boss. That freedom? It’s a double-edged sword.

Without strong self-management skills, your writing dreams quickly drown in procrastination, burnout, or chaos. That’s why it’s essential to:

  • Set boundaries around your time and energy
  • Create daily or weekly writing (and promotional) rituals
  • Use tools like time-blocking, Pomodoro timers, or apps that lock you out of social media temporarily: Freedom, Cold Turkey Blocker, Session (a combination Pomodoro timer and distraction blocker), PawBlock for distraction blocking with cute animal pictures

Remember that you just need a repeatable system that helps you consistently show up.

Collaboration & Client Empathy: Writing is a Team Sport

Even solo writers rarely work entirely alone. Editors, clients, publishers, designers, marketers; they’re all part of the process.

Successful writers know how to listen, ask clarifying questions, and see their work from someone else’s point of view. This empathy leads to better results and fewer ego clashes.

Ask yourself: What does success look like for this client or partner? Not just “what do I want to create?” That small shift can lead to long-term relationships, better testimonials, and repeat work.

Contrast that with the transactional writer who delivers work without conversation and vanishes. One builds a career. The other just finishes gigs. Because in the end, great writing isn’t just about what you put on the page. It’s about who you become as you create it.

Procrastination: Why Writers Self-Sabotage

You’ve made your plan. Scheduled your writing time. Brewed the coffee. You know exactly what scene you’re supposed to write today.

And then… nothing.

My current work-in-progress had started to sprawl. The kind of slow, aimless sprawl that kills interest fast. I paused, listed the key scenes, and sat down to write. But the new scene would shift the story’s direction. It didn’t derail it, exactly, but I had to refocus on what really mattered.

I didn’t have the answers yet, so I started doing… other things. Not writing.

Days passed. I wrote a couple of paragraphs, but kept rewriting and tweaking them. Meanwhile, I cranked out 1700 words about magical artifacts. Interesting, but not actual progress.

I knew what was happening: procrastination. Again.

What finally helped? Accountability. I belong to a weekly writing goals group. One I founded decades ago. Each Monday, we check in, and knowing I had to report in snapped me out of it.

I finally wrote the scene and finished it late Sunday night, and I was happy with it.

Too bad I didn’t start sooner. I might’ve written three scenes instead of one.

What Self-Sabotage Looks Like

Self-sabotage often feels like productivity, until you realize you’ve been orbiting the work, not doing it. Here are five common traps:

1. Perfectionism Disguised as Productivity

You want the opening paragraph to sing, so you rewrite it 12 times… and never move on.

Author Nora Roberts states the folly of this practice best. “You can fix anything but a blank page.”

Instead of getting caught in the rewrite loop, try this approach: Write first, edit later. Use brackets or comments to flag what you’ll clean up later.

In a nutshell: Draft first, edit second—no rewrites mid-stream.

2. The “Research” Rabbit Hole

One quick Google search turns into a deep dive on Shoshone beadwork. (That’s where my 1700 words of artifact notes came from as I orbited the writing I should’ve been doing.)

Try this: Use a placeholder in your draft like [Research later] and keep writing. You can fill in the facts and details when you have a draft to work with.

3. Impostor Syndrome

“Who am I to write this?”
“This story’s been done before.”
“I’m not a real writer.”

That voice isn’t the truth; it’s fear pretending to be helpful.

A 2020 study in The Journal of General Internal Medicine found that up to 82% of people experience impostor syndrome, especially high achievers.

Remind yourself: No one else can write your version of this story.

4. Fear of Success

You’re getting closer to finishing, but suddenly, you stall. Because what happens when someone reads it?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson. Her quote suggests our real fear is the magnitude of our own potential. True power comes with responsibility, and that can be intimidating. Embracing our strengths means stepping up, being seen, and making an impact, something many of us quietly resist. This quote is a call to stop playing small and to recognize that when we fully own our abilities, we inspire others to do the same.

Try this: Notice when you slow down. Ask yourself what feels threatening about succeeding?

5. Procrastination Masquerading as Planning

Worldbuilding, outlines, beat sheets, etc. are all good things. But if you’re still planning after six weeks and haven’t drafted a scene, it might be fear in disguise.

Try this: Set a hard “start writing” deadline. Plan, then commit to draft, even if it’s messy.

Why We Do It: The Psychology Behind the Freeze

Self-sabotage isn’t laziness. It’s a safety response.

Creative work is emotionally risky. I’ll never forget the first time I shared a chapter from my book The Inheritance with a critique group. It was my first work of fiction and it felt like handing over a piece of my soul.

When your brain senses that kind of vulnerability, it often defaults to avoidance.

Reorganizing your desk? Safer than facing judgment.
Rewriting instead of drafting? Safer than finishing.

Here’s what’s going on beneath the freeze:

·       Writing Is Vulnerable

You’re exposing your thoughts, voice, and imagination. Of course it feels risky and your brain treats it like danger.

·       The Brain Prefers Comfort, Not Growth

Creativity brings uncertainty. And the brain hates uncertainty. So it nudges you toward safer activities, even chores.

·       Perfectionism Is a Form of Control

If you don’t finish, you can’t be judged. If you’re always “almost there,” you never risk failure. But you also never grow.

How to Write Anyway: Practical Tools

You don’t need to out-muscle your inner critic. You just need a few smart ways to keep moving:

·       Write a Bad First Sentence on Purpose

Start ugly. Intentionally. Even if it’s, “This is a terrible opening sentence.”
Now you’ve started.

·       Time-Limited Sessions

Set a timer: 20 minutes of writing ugly. You can survive that, and often, you’ll want to keep going. (I’ve used this exercise for decades and it works really well for me).

·       Create a Ritual, Not a Goal

Light a candle. Play a specific playlist. When you focus on showing up instead of output, pressure fades and consistency grows.

·       Talk to Your Inner Critic Like a Character

Give your critic a name, a weird voice, an identity. Mine’s part snooty editor, part gremlin. Naming it helps tame it. (I’m still working on a name so she’s not tamed yet. I’m currently calling her Grimelda Crabb.)

·       Reward the Behavior, Not the Result

Celebrate writing, not just word count. Five minutes of writing = five minutes of music, chocolate, or playing your favorite game.

Writing Isn’t Just About Finishing Stories

Writing isn’t just about finishing stories, articles, etc. It’s about learning to keep going, even when fear shows up wearing a clever disguise.

Self-sabotage is tricky. But now? So are you.

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